A very extensive and profound topic that I would like to accommodate in a short post is the inner sense of security. This subject has been researched by psychologists for many years, and real results have been obtained in this area.
Of course, this is rather theoretical material, but if you work with it in practice, you get wonderful results). The basic feeling of safety is that a person can feel safe at home, in society, in communication with friends.
At the level of inner experience, it is calmness, reliability, inner confidence, goodwill and trust that can be transferred to the outside world (by the way, those who do not have such a state often talk about the desired stability: at work, in retirement, in the country, etc.).
You can spend your whole life looking for this illusory stability in the outside world, but you will never find it, because these fears and worries are deep enough inside. The roots of these problems often go back to before birth.
Neuropsychology has found scientific evidence that everything that happens in the womb and in early childhood creates channels for our thoughts, for our feelings toward ourselves, toward the world and our place in it. All of this is shaped at the level of physical sensations, at the level of the right hemisphere of the brain. Access to these channels and experiences is usually deeply hidden.
Usually it is believed that the baby in the womb is good, warm and comfortable. And that the person then strives throughout his life to reproduce this feeling of safety and security. But in reality it is different. How does the feeling of insecurity arise?
At the very beginning, while we are in the womb, we bathe in its electromagnetic field. This field contains a stream of information about the world, about the mother, about us, about the planet through the prism of a woman carrying a child.
The child’s brain and especially the heart are formed under the influence of this field. Electroencephalograms and electromagnetograms show that the fields of two living beings – mother and fetus – are completely synchronized.
And what the mother feels about the child, whether that child is wanted or loved, is passed on to the developing fetus through changes in the electromagnetic field. These changes contain coded information that the child’s field can easily decode, just as a radio receiver can easily decode radio waves. In addition, a tremendous flow of maternal hormones enters the baby’s blood.
And the information carried by these hormones is very valuable for survival. Under the influence of the maternal field, the later rhythm of the endocrine glands’ work is established. Neural networks are formed that are configured either exclusively for survival or for both survival and prosperity. The hemispheres of the brain either begin to work flexibly (synchronous-asynchronous) or are rigidly fixed to one mode of operation.
The mother may be in a state of severe stress, she may have shock traumas in her history that have forever altered her hormonal background. Viruses and bacteria, a large number of medications or the tactless attitude of doctors, health problems or tragic and dangerous events for life (for example, a husband hit him, the death of a loved one, moving is also a stressful event). The baby has a hard time. Already in the second trimester of pregnancy, his neural networks are sufficiently developed to receive a danger signal.
Electromagnetic, hormonal. The baby tries to hide. The baby’s home – a womb from which there is no escape – becomes dangerous. The child shrinks, turns away. It is very difficult for it, it is afraid for its life. Its glands also begin to work in stress mode. This is where the first uncertainty of the body and psyche occurs, and when this happens constantly, a chronic feeling of danger develops.
A basic sense of security begins to emerge in the prenatal period, in the second trimester, because at this time the internal organs are still taking shape and the brain is developing rapidly. By the beginning of the third month of pregnancy, the size of the head is half the size of the body! If the mother has been exposed to severe stress during this period, the person tends to intense mental activity, which is often completely devoid of imagination.
Unrealistic projects, difficulties in sexual and general sensual life, because there is no possibility to feel sensations. It is difficult to get in touch with reality, with the skin, because the first moments of such contact were marked by intense fear. From birth, such a little person has the impression of being useless and unwanted, even if the mother wanted and loved the child.
He seems to have no place in the world. For such people it is difficult to find a home. Often a home of one’s own emerges only as a result of deep therapy. Somewhere inside lives an unconscious feeling that the house means danger.
And there is a desire to run away, to get away, to not be stuck anywhere. Suicidality also often has its roots in this stage of life. While a difficult pregnancy and birth can create a barrier between the baby and the mother, the opposite is true.
A survivor of prenatal trauma finds it difficult to detach from his or her mother when it comes to growing up. It’s as if something needs to be taken: serenity, self-confidence, balance in the nervous system. Inner panic, uncertainty that there is a place for him in the world, heightened mentality, a sense of danger and fear sometimes make independent living impossible.